Mind, Heart, Gut: Dr. Alan Salas on Conscious Pleasure

Dr. Alan Salas, a chiropractic physician and creator of the mind, body, and goal clearing systems, joins us for a profound exploration of sexual pleasure and the subconscious beliefs that shape our experiences. 

The real journey to sexual freedom begins within. As Dr. Salas explains, while our conscious mind represents just 5-10% of our thinking, our subconscious holds a commanding 90-95% - storing every experience from birth until now. This subconscious programming creates the framework for how we experience pleasure, especially sexual pleasure. When mothers tell daughters "sex is dirty" or cultural norms shame certain expressions of sexuality, these messages become deeply embedded programs that limit our capacity for joy and connection.

What makes this conversation particularly illuminating is Dr. Salas's three-step approach to reprogramming these limiting beliefs. By deleting outdated programming, replacing it with empowering beliefs, and creating new patterns, we can develop what he calls "an open mind, an open heart, and an open will." This state allows for conscious pleasure - being fully present with ourselves and our partners.

Dr. Salas shares a revolutionary framework connecting different aspects of our being: the head (how), heart (why), and gut or "hara" (what). This integration of masculine energy (peace of mind), feminine energy (emotional expression), and creative energy creates the foundation for truly conscious relationships. When we operate from this place of integration rather than just our analytical minds, we experience sexuality not just as physical pleasure but as "the ultimate experience of sharing" that can actually raise our consciousness.

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Chapters

• 0:08 Introduction to Sexual Pleasure and Limiting Beliefs
• 2:05 Conscious vs. Subconscious Sexual Programming
• 5:34 Transforming Limiting Beliefs About Sexuality
• 9:15 Open Mind, Open Heart, Open Will
• 16:50 Conscious Pleasure and Intimate Relationships
• 21:36 Mind, Heart and Gut Connection
• 25:14 Conclusion and Connecting with Dr. Salas

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:08

Welcome back, listeners, to another episode of the Pleasure Principles. I'm your host, sana, and today we are diving into a really fascinating and deeply personal topic pleasure and sexuality. So often our beliefs around these topics they are shaped by our bringing, upbringing, cultural norms or even past traumas, and they can create limitations in our lives. And to help me with understanding this and really getting out of them is Dr Alan Salas, an expert in breaking the cycle of limiting beliefs, so people can achieve vibrant health, harmonious relationships and long-lasting prosperity. Now let me share a bit about Dr Salas with all of you listeners. So he is a number one Amazon best-selling author, a chiropractic physician and also the creator of the very interesting mind-clearing, body-clearing and goal and success clearing systems. And over the past 28 years he has worked with over 4,000 clients across the US and Europe, helping them transform their lives holistically. So with that, dr Salas, welcome to the show and, as always, it's an absolute pleasure having you with us.

Speaker 2: 1:30

Hi bonjour Sana. How are you doing? It's a pleasure for me too.

Speaker 1: 1:34

Bonjour, bonjour. So, dr Salas, to begin with, let's talk about the idea of pleasure, especially sexual pleasure. So many people grow up with this idea that sexual pleasure is something to be controlled, hidden or even ashamed of. You know, we don't even hesitate to even talk about it. So why do you think that is, and how do these early beliefs shape our adult relationships and self-perception?

Speaker 2: 2:05

Sure, I will add, also, sometimes it can be taboo, right. I mean, taboo means things that you won't talk about, that, and so, actually, you know. So what's defining our behavior, right? What's defining our feeling about pleasure and sexuality? What's defining our thought about pleasure and sexuality? Was defining our thought about pleasure and sexuality? And basically they are our past experiences, right. So our past experiences can be good, right. I mean, of course, life can be enjoyable, right. But also it can be more negative, right.

Speaker 2: 2:41

And so, actually, when you look in depth into that, we uh I always like to say that we uh live in two separate world at the same time, meaning that we've got the inner world and the outer world right. And the outer world is our conscious mind, which is five to ten percent our mind, right. It's our self-identity, who we think we are, um, how do we experience pleasure, how do we suppress pleasure, right? What kind of sexuality we have, right. And so this is our conscious mind and our subconscious mind.

Speaker 2: 3:17

Just, the job is just to um, basically record everything you have been doing in your life from 8-0 to now. It's also where your skills are stored at, and it's also where your automatic bodily system, like, for example, your heartbeat, your breathing are stored and, yes, your mind can be programmed. So your mind can have negative programming, for example, about sexuality and pleasure. You mentioned a couple of emotions like shame and denying self-pleasure because they think that sex is dirty or whatever it is. So those are caused by programming that you've got in your subconscious mind, knowing that the conscious mind is 5 or 10% of your entire mind and your subconscious mind is 90 to 95% of our mind Makes sense.

Speaker 1: 4:20

I think that really establishes the relation between our internal beliefs and I think this really, really encourages to think inside out, especially for sexual pleasure. And also, when we talk about sexual freedom, then people intellectually believe in that, then people intellectually believe in that, and yet they often feel, still feel, guilt or shame, probably driven by the reactions of, you know, others, so they just avoid to talk in front of them.

Speaker 2: 5:04

So how can someone begin to shift those deeply ingrained beliefs? Well, let's take an example, for example. You know so. So, for example, there's a little girl that her mom told her that, you know, sex is dirty, that the men are only there to take advantage of her, that you have to be, uh. So she does that overwhelming right she's.

Speaker 2: 5:20

She actually put a fear and maybe the bad experience that she had on her daughter, right? I mean, of course it's good to warn, you know, to warn the daughter about, you know, any things that can happen to her, but she's really overdoing it, right. So that little girl, you know, especially around the age of zero to eight, she's going to be like a sponge, right. So she's going to assume that, oh, all men's are created equal and all they want is to get in your pants, right and so, which is not true, obviously. And so what happens? She's going to assume that and, with repetition from a mom, that's going to become a program, right, and the program is going to be, um, at point, if you feel, if she feels some shame and guilt or negative emotion, it means that that's a limiting belief, because you can have good programming and bad programming, right. So, for example, the good programming so programming that service would be an empowering belief and the programming that used to serve us for a while, right, and now it doesn't serve us. So maybe that little girl, when she grows up she's going to be like overprotective, she's not going to let herself go. Maybe she won't have any pleasure because of her mom programming right and because she said oh well, pleasure, you're not being a good girl or you're not going to be a good woman if you express your pleasure. In some culture in Africa, they even cut off the clitoris of a woman, right? So there's some cultural things also that happen around it. Right, it's not only, it's the entire culture. Or, if you have pleasure, maybe she can have that program. If you have pleasure with a man, you can, and so of course it's not true. But now either she won't have sex at all or either she will have no pleasure, right, yeah, right. And so, with limiting belief, the good news is, like that programming can be corrected. Right, because balance is key in life. Right, and, like you say, true, healings come from within, out. So I mean tapping into your subconscious mind. There's no more within than than that in my book, right? So what we can do.

Speaker 2: 7:52

Let's see, with that example of that little girl, right, that grew up and she, for example, cannot have orgasm, or she, she won't, uh, she, she, she will be like, very worried about sex, you know, and things like that. And so what we can do, we can, and this can impact the relationship, right, I mean she can lose her husband over that, because man thinks they are loved, you know, when they have sex, women think they are loved when they got the attention, you know, from a man and being heard, right. So it's more like this in general, right, that's how masculinity and femininity work, right. And so basically, she can even lose her relationship. She can truly love that man and after the man will feel, oh, I have no sex, so he will feel that, oh, she doesn't love me, right, that's how, at the subconscious level, even at the conscious level, that's what it will get and maybe they will divorce because of that. So that can have. And if there's kids, that can have a big impact, right.

Speaker 2: 8:58

So what we want is that a woman comes and so we can, we tell her the good news. We can reprogram Muslim belief inherited from your mom, or culturally, or things like that. Like that you can be free and you can be balanced. Right? I'm not talking to sleep with everybody, or you see what you mean I'm not talking about you know I'm not talking either, but what I'm talking about having no sex. So it's all extreme, right. So you want balance, right? And so what we will do.

Speaker 2: 9:30

There are three steps in the mind clearing, right. The first step. We want to delete the limiting beliefs that are not serving her anymore, right, that damage actually a relationship with her husband, right. So we want to delete those limiting beliefs. And we want to step number two replace them with empowering one saying that it's okay to have sex, it's okay to have pleasure. You know you should enjoy yourself as a woman, a woman, you know, like a man enjoy himself, and so that will be the empowering belief. For example, I don't know what she wants, it's really personal, obviously and after, we want to make sure that you create that. You want to make sure that she's more um open about having sex, and and, and and, and be free, while having it, to express truly yourself via sexuality.

Speaker 1: 10:26

Absolutely. I think you know definitely, sexuality is one of the components of very powerful component of expression. And secondly, I really like that you clearly distinguish between love and sex, because sometimes you know divorces happen just because you know it's kind of perceived that if husband and wife of their partners are not having sex then they don't love each other. So that's a very important point you pointed out and also, dr Salas, we think of, as I mentioned this, we think of pleasure as purely physical, but, as you clearly explained, it's much more than that.

Speaker 2: 11:19

So well, in this mind, yeah, go ahead, go ahead, okay no, it's called courtship, right, I mean you, you still don't want to lose that, right. So you mean, you mean there's different. You first have to have intimacy. All right, because if you don't have intimacy, intimacy means you know how close you feel. Right, it's not only the touch, intimacy, like you say, it's the mind. You know. Are you engaging with your thought? Are you engaging with your emotion? You know, and your behavior? That match that right?

Speaker 2: 11:56

So you want to be there with a with a full heart. Right, it's about the heart. Right, it's not only about, and especially for women, because women's sexuality is so much more complex than men's sexuality. You know, trust me, I've been treating lots of women and, and even like the, physiologically with the hormone, right, but it's all stuck in the mind, of course, and especially for women, for sure. I'm not denying that, because it's important for men too.

Speaker 2: 12:24

So, what we want, we want to have what I call an open mind, an open heart and an open will. So what do I mean by that? When you do mind clearing instead of staying in your head? Right, because right now, the way society is, we are taught to be all the time in our head. Right, we need to resolve problems all the time. When you resolve a problem, another problem comes up, and so we cannot have peace of mind, right, and the heart is shut down.

Speaker 2: 12:54

And the heart is, and the feeling are obviously the major components about intimacy and sexuality, the kind of sexuality that you described. That is more about being intimate first, right, and after the act of sexuality just comes naturally, right. So that's a difference between what they call a one-nine stand and being in love, right. So that's a difference between what they call a one-night stand and being in love, right. So you have to be in love, obviously, and with love comes the intimacy, feeling close to that person. In order to feel close to that person, you need to be able to express yourself fully, especially for men, sometimes it can be challenging, but also for women.

Speaker 2: 13:39

If you have a trauma, right, that's going to shut down your heart, so you're not going to be able to express your feeling, right, and it's true for both sex, right, men or women. So what you want, since we are too much in our head, you want a clear, limiting belief, and now you become open-minded, right. So it means you've got more peace of mind, right, and so if you've got a problem. Instead of seeing only one solution now or possibilities, now you can see more than one possibility, right, that's called being open-minded. When you do that, that there's less energy going to your head. So, and and you fix some of your trauma because of your trauma associated with limiting belief right, so you get rid of your limiting belief, can open, right, and like I always describing like, to me it's a beautiful picture open like a flower. Right and now you've got an open heart so you can express your feeling, you can be in touch with a deeper, much deeper, who you truly are. Right, and after we've opened wheel, which is about your action and your behavior, which is more in the gut, right Now you can have desirable behavior and take good actions and have a good outcome.

Speaker 2: 15:01

So it's very important to follow your heart in relationship, but everything in life, actually, that's how you should make decisions, that's how you should act in the present with your heart as open as possible, right, and so, in order to do that, you get rid of those limiting beliefs as much as you can. Now you've got an open mind, you're going to open heart and open will. So how does it work? Let's see if you decide. The decision is like how am I going to, as a woman, for example, am I going to let go and totally allow myself to be lost? And let go, you know, to have the pleasure that I deserve, right? And so, in order to that, so there's different possibility to do that Maybe you're exposed to and you're going to follow your heart and your heart's going to make the decision, because your heart, you know when it's open, cannot be wrong.

Speaker 2: 15:56

That's the way we make decisions, that's the way we should make all the decisions all the time, but remember that heart is shut down right. So we are more analytical, right, and we don't, we don't allow our feeling to take place right and to be a part of the decision making, to be a part of a decision making, to be a part of a conversation. So when we do that now you've got your thought, your emotion and your behavior and action that are aligned right. They are all working together. So you've got more positive thought, you've got supportive emotion, you've got desirable behavior and, of course, you've got productive action. Does it make sense?

Speaker 1: 16:39

Absolutely, absolutely, thank you. Thank you for explaining that, and you know a bit of a personal question. So your journey, dr Salas, is incredible. I mean, you have experienced both personal and professional highs and lows, from building a successful business to struggling with burnout and health challenges. So how did pleasure, or maybe the lack of it, play a role in these experiences?

Speaker 2: 17:09

Well, we always say that. We always, you know, try to avoid pain and look for pleasure in life. Right, try to avoid pain and look for pleasure in life, right. And sometimes, you know, having no pleasure in life, I think it's not necessarily a bad thing, you know, I know I'm going to shock people, but I really think so, because it's just pushing you to take action and to change. You know what we judge a good experience or bad experience, it's only judgment.

Speaker 2: 17:37

But maybe the experience that I had for my business, you know, having the cancer, you know, and, and losing my relationship and divorcing, was the best thing that ever happened to me.

Speaker 2: 17:48

It really was, you know, and so it just, it's just about, you know, I think, think you want to be like free, right. When you are free in a good way, it doesn't mean that, oh, I'm free, so I'm going to be a butterfly and all that. No, it's just to be living in the moment, being in the present. That's what I call being free, right, and so that's how you can, in my book, truly experience real pleasure, conscious pleasure, if I may call that right. It's just something that is like it's just here, you're living it, you're breathing it, you know you're embracing it, and you can do only that when you are fully present. And when you are fully present, that's when you've got full intimacy with somebody, right, we can share your feeling, you can nurturing a person, you can intuitively know what she wants or what he wants. And because it's about the ultimate sharing, right, I think sexuality is the ultimate experience of sharing, and that can be also at its best, can raise your consciousness. Right, it's an experience that really can.

Speaker 2: 19:03

It's like a fusion of two beings, right. And so when you have a conscious relationship so what do I mean by that conscious relationship? You know, because I don't know all that before A conscious relationship it means you don't know why you are with somebody. For example, when I remarried, I told my wife three things and that's personal, I'm not going to say that here, but three things that that's why we are together. Right, this and this and that. Are you signing up? She said, yes, thank you, thanks god, you know, but at least we knew the deeper reason, we knew the programming behind it. Exactly right, you see what I mean. We knew, we knew the limiting belief and the empowering belief that we had, and and we knew that, uh, I knew the role that I had to play, in a way, because it's still, we are dancing together, you know, we just I'm sorry to say that, but we play a role, right, when you know your role and you embrace it because it's for the benefits of your spouse, that's wonderful.

Speaker 1: 20:15

I think your journey is itself. It defines a different perspective on pleasure, and I absolutely love the concept of conscious pleasure. It's something very unique.

Speaker 2: 20:29

Yeah, it does make sense. It's like being a conscious human being to have a conscious relationship, right? It means you know the deep causes, know the deep reason, the why you know the most important question in life is why, in my book and the why come from the heart. Let me, let me, this is important. We never talk about that, but the how is in your head, right, how, how I'm gonna do that right, the why it's it comes from your heart.

Speaker 2: 21:00

Why, truly, what are the reasons? What is my intention? The intention comes from the heart. Why I'm doing that right, and after, the what you're doing comes from the gut. So what are you going to create, right? What are you going to create in life, right? So how are you doing it, why are you doing it and what are you're going to create? Right, what you're going to create in life, right. So how are you doing it, why are you doing it and what you're doing? What are you going to create? And so that's how it connects with the head, the heart and the hara the hara, which means, in japanese, the gut. Does it make sense?

Speaker 1: 21:36

absolutely. I mean, it's such a I didn't know that actually. Uh, I mean, that's so simple and really makes it clear that you know how is in our mind, why it is in our heart and what it is in our gut well, yeah, I came, I came up with that because it did make sense.

Speaker 2: 21:55

I did develop, and that's going to be in a future book. And after your philosophy, with the head, the heart and the aura. I call that the free edge, right, and we can elaborate on that. I mean, there's so much to say, you know, but that's really. And one more thing we talk about creation, sexuality, and can lead to, of course, to create another human being. We even didn't talk about that, right, I mean that's so important.

Speaker 2: 22:22

So, um, in in your head, it's, you are peace. Yeah, I mean it's, that's important, right. So so, in in your head, you've got what peace of mind, right, that's what. That's a male characteristic, it's masculine, right, every man that you, you know, I'm sure they want peace of mind. I guarantee you that, as a man, I can relate. Right, so you want peace of mind. And after, of course, the femininity is more in the heart, right, it's your feeling, you know to express your feeling. So it's more like a feminine right tray. And after, the creation is the combination of a masculine and feminine. In order to create a baby, you need to have a sperm and the ovum, you know, combining together and it's in the belly. On top of that, that's how women obviously carry a baby, right? So it really just makes sense. So you want the masculine and feminine to create. So if you're fully conscious, if you've got a conscious relationship, if you've got a conscious sexuality, so that's going to create, more than likely, a conscious human being.

Speaker 1: 23:29

Wow, Dr Salas. So I think this has been such a unique, different, enlightening conversation on pleasure and you know, I think we touched down upon different perspectives, different understanding of pleasure, along with the body, mind and gut alignment. So, of course, if our listeners would like to connect with you, how they can, Well, they go to my website.

Speaker 2: 23:56

You know it's called themindclearing's called wwwthemindclearingcom. They go to the contact form and they can communicate with me. Also, there's my email address there and I will give them 20% off of treatment of mind clearing. Because it's good to know about things, right. We can talk about bad, sana, forever right. It's good to have about things right. We can talk about that, sana, forever right.

Speaker 2: 24:21

It's good to have the knowledge, but you need to apply the knowledge and experience to experience the work. That's true knowledge, because that's how you know and you realize how powerful that work can be for you, right? And so, in the same time, I truly believe that we are on earth to become the better version of ourselves, right? That's the main reason you know that we are on earth to become the better version of ourselves, right, that's that's the main reason. You know that. We all know. That's what I believe in.

Speaker 2: 24:45

I may be wrong, right, but so you know. So you always want to grow, you always want to transform myself, you always want, and in order to do that, you need to, and to do that, like, quickly, and, and you need to have an open mind, an open heart and an open will, like I described, and when you do that, you're more connected to your spirit and you think more positively. You've got more supportive emotion, you've got more desirable behavior and so, therefore, productive action in your life, more desirable behavior, I'm sorry and so, therefore, productive action in your life.

Speaker 1: 25:23

Lovely, lovely. That's such a beautiful and apt conclusion to this conversation, dr Salasan, thank you so much. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and your personal journey with all of us and teaching us the importance of pleasure. Thank you so much.

Speaker 2: 25:39

Thank you, Sana. It's always a pleasure talking with you, for sure.

Speaker 1: 25:45

So, for those of you listening, if today's episode has resonated with you, I encourage all of you to check out Dr Salah's work and his mind-clearing system. You can refer to the show notes along with this episode. And we all learned today that pleasure isn't the absence of struggle, but it is a necessary part of a full, meaningful life. And if someone wants to connect with Dr Sallis, just refer to the show notes. And until next time, stay curious, stay open and keep exploring what pleasure means to you. Thank you.